[Intro]
Brace yourself.... This is gonna be a long one.
So, I'm at my desk at work not sitting on a chair but on my 'chest of drawers' (?) because the only available chair is one with a wack back. I don't think I'm sulking but that's probably arguable.
Meh.
Okay. Let me be honest. That's not what led to this post.
For the sake of consistency, I should apologize for not posting anything on the past 2 to 3 months. Um.... I wouldn't give excuses. :x
Now that all the formality is out of the way... (well, I hope it is...) Let's get back to it shall we?
I was checking my email, looking through old mails in different tabs (if you have your Gmail set up that way), spent a lot of time in the Promotions tab... -
Not sharing why, thanks. :p - and I saw this digest from
Quora in the Socials tab. The first post in the digest caught my eye actually.
It went this way
The question caught my eye because I felt it applied to me in some way. Not i'm not a recluse lol.
And NO, I'm not lonely.
This was the
response, I'll paste it here as well (stating clearly that it was from Ashley Djohan on Quora)
"I have a close relative who has lived alone all his life. After graduating college, he moved out and never lived with another human being since.
One trait I saw that he developed was that he constantly had to fill in the silence. I am deducing that due to the fact that because he lives alone, it is quite silent on an everyday basis so he constantly adds comments out loud as a habit.
So, for example, he would be reading a news article on his smartphone and he would add comments as he read through, such as "oh he's crazy" or "hmm interesting..".
A more "serious" consequence would be that he views human relationships to be very mundane and of little value. So, if he was upset with a friend or acquaintance he would have no problem cutting off the relationship entirely. Why? Well, this is because he feels he has lived his life being self-sufficient and feels that he doesn't need anyone else to support him emotionally."
Now, the first paragraph, I think people who are not lonely do it. But hey, there're people who subscribe to a school of thought that Nigerians are depressed despite the happy faces and all...something like that(....or was it crazy instead of depressed?), why not toss in lonely as well? Anyway, I don't think that's strange.
Second paragraph is where the idea of this post came from. More specifically, this phrase "...if he was upset with a friend or acquaintance he would have no problem cutting off the relationship entirely."
That. Is. Totally. Something. I. Can. Do.
Now now, simmer down. This wouldn't be easy. But before we I go into explaining the specificity of how it applies to me, lets tweak the question a bit.
What are some consequences of staying single for too long?
See how the answer still seems logical if you tweak the question a bit?
I do not view human relationships as mundane or having little value, however I have been single a while...I would cut people off. And if I thought something WAS going to happen, it would hurt, yes. But if I feel that's the only option left, I would do it.
As things have to be done in moderation with justice and prudence (yes please, let me sound like a crime fighting cartoon character), I would talk to one or two people, lay down the bare facts and hear what they have to say. When the reply is like, 'Girrrrrrrl, you put up with this douche?!' lol. No one I know talks like that but the point is what I get responses along those lines, I have been known once to still try because of the dastardly 'what if' question(s).
So.......those are my thoughts. :)
Which of the two questions do you think you can answer?
Does the second paragraph apply to you? Would you cut people off *snaps fingers* just like that?
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