Striking Gold

I stumbled across Fashion Toast sometime last week or upper week and immediately fell in love with the site and the Rumi Neely whose pictures are so tastefully scattered all over the site.

Have a look see...

The site does take a while for first time load especially if your internet connection crawls -like mine was today- but I found the content extremely refreshing.

My favorite thing on the site right now has to be liquid gold (pictured below)

Just take a minute to appreciate it. I'll wait. (you'll need to d that in full screen mode)

If you need extra help in appreciating it, there you go.

If you know or you've watched SATC, you know what this dress is. If you don't, see SATC Season 1 Episode 6.

I think the dress is gooooorgeous. And as the site is 'FOR GIRLS THAT GET IT'', I'm glad I do. Unless that means..... Lol. 

In related news, Kendall Jenner was pictured with the slip dress here. 

I'm definitely going to be refreshing this site DAILY and going through the archives, of course. 

Lest I forget, you can shop ZILLAH here. 

What's your take on the dress?

What's so great about "Closure"?

That torrid affair or that whirlwind romance all gone in a hot second.

You're left oddly bereft.

Like a single fern hanging there by itself.

Or a forgotten rope dangling off a cliff.

What's the point of a discussion to end what was once glorious?

What's the point of facing reality so harshly, so abruptly...

Then again, the abrupt thing WAS the end of the relationship, the affair, the situation-ship.

You habor the right to deal with it the way you want and screw what anyone else thinks.

What right does the person, who took away your 'happy', have to take away your just-because-I-can or just-because-I'm-hurt reason for doing reckless sheez?

Why does the person feel the need to make you think, to make you calm when all you want to do is yell and scream?

Is that not one thing you've always disliked, how they're always trying to control your reactions, control your views, Control YOU.

You're passionate.

A wild-at-heart.

A beating heart.

A free spirit.

You deserve the right to your closure.
Your own reckless.
Your own mad.

Random Musing #003

Hi!

Contrary to my header, I wasn't musing. I just thought I'd share this.

Read Kate Viana's answer to

What are some things a woman should know about men?

on Quora

What do you think?

I, for one, have an issue with the first one. Not like it's wrong or anything. But for me if I'm teling you what I want, then what's the point? It's not the same 'feels' when you get something you want without having to ask for it. It would be nice to get it but the feels kinda dims a bit.

Meh. Iono.

Random Musing #002

I like the rain.

It's the weather like today that makes me want to BE with someone in every sense of the word.

I cast my gaze upwards (just above the street lamps level and the power cables level) and let my mind roam
I let my heart be free, let it expand to contain and visualize my dreams..

I like bridges.
A weather like today's looking at the skies cruising on the bridge transports me to a time or that of an alter ago, where I, absent-mindedly looking at the rains fall, have my lover come to me and wrap his arm around my waist and draw me against him... possessively.

I like the quiet after a storm.
That moment of silence where everything seems right with the world,
PERFECT. 

The stillness.

In that moment I hold my breath, willing the moment to never end, willing that I could forever stay in his arms....

And suddenly I realize some parts of this are from a scene in a book. 

Or what I felt like while reading a book.. 

Or was it...?

Hmm..

Random Musing #001

[Intro]

Brace yourself.... This is gonna be a long one.

So, I'm at my desk at work not sitting on a chair but on my 'chest of drawers' (?) because the only available chair is one with a wack back. I don't think I'm sulking but that's probably arguable.

Meh.

Okay. Let me be honest. That's not what led to this post.

For the sake of consistency, I should apologize for not posting anything on the past 2 to 3 months. Um.... I wouldn't give excuses. :x

Now that all the formality is out of the way... (well, I hope it is...) Let's get back to it shall we?

I was checking my email, looking through old mails in different tabs (if you have your Gmail set up that way), spent a lot of time in the Promotions tab... - Not sharing why, thanks. :p - and I saw this digest from Quora in the Socials tab. The first post in the digest caught my eye actually.

It went this way

What are some consequences of staying lonely for too long?

The question caught my eye because I felt it applied to me in some way. Not i'm not a recluse lol. 

And NO, I'm not lonely. 

This was the response, I'll paste it here as well (stating clearly that it was from Ashley Djohan on Quora) 

"I have a close relative who has lived alone all his life. After graduating college, he moved out and never lived with another human being since.
One trait I saw that he developed was that he constantly had to fill in the silence. I am deducing that due to the fact that because he lives alone, it is quite silent on an everyday basis so he constantly adds comments out loud as a habit. 
So, for example, he would be reading a news article on his smartphone and he would add comments as he read through, such as "oh he's crazy" or "hmm interesting..".

A more "serious" consequence would be that he views human relationships to be very mundane and of little value. So, if he was upset with a friend or acquaintance he would have no problem cutting off the relationship entirely. Why? Well, this is because he feels he has lived his life being self-sufficient and feels that he doesn't need anyone else to support him emotionally."

Now, the first paragraph, I think people who are not lonely do it. But hey, there're people who subscribe to a school of thought that Nigerians are depressed despite the happy faces and all...something like that(....or was it crazy instead of depressed?), why not toss in lonely as well? Anyway, I don't think that's strange.

Second paragraph is where the idea of this post came from. More specifically, this phrase "...if he was upset with a friend or acquaintance he would have no problem cutting off the relationship entirely."

That. Is. Totally. Something. I. Can. Do.

Now now, simmer down. This wouldn't be easy. But before we I go into explaining the specificity of how it applies to me, lets tweak the question a bit.

What are some consequences of staying single for too long?

See how the answer still seems logical if you tweak the question a bit?

I do not view human relationships as mundane or having little value, however I have been single a while...I would cut people off. And if I thought something WAS going to happen, it would hurt, yes. But if I feel that's the only option left, I would do it. 

As things have to be done in moderation with justice and prudence (yes please, let me sound like a crime fighting cartoon character), I would talk to one or two people, lay down the bare facts and hear what they have to say. When the reply is like, 'Girrrrrrrl, you put up with this douche?!'  lol. No one I know talks like that but the point is what I get responses along those lines, I have been known once to still try because of the dastardly 'what if' question(s).

So.......those are my thoughts. :)

Which of the two questions do you think you can answer?

Does the second paragraph apply to you? Would you cut people off *snaps fingers* just like that?

E

Confounding the Average Man

*Fade in*

A small dark room with a lone light bulb hanging in the center of a clustered small group...


Me:"Hello, My name is E and I'm a word-aholic*."


PRESENT DAY REAL LIFE....


I had a particularly interesting though tiresome conversation with my colleagues at work today.
It was enlightening too.

I have a thing for new words. Big words preferably.

New big words make me giggle.

They make me want to use them in everyday conversations to test my proficiency (can't remember the actual word I want to use here) in English Language.

Now their arguments were as follows (they used baser words so I'll try not to detract from what they said) : -

1) Using bigger words often can make you forget simpler words that can be used instead
2) You make your audience laugh (at you)
3) You would most probably not be able to explain some words you use.
4) You forget that some words which are basic to you are actually big words

Now, 1 and 3 are similar, I know. We actually put it to the test.

They asked me to define gibberish. 

Now, I know what gibberish means. You know how sometimes you know what you want to say but you don't know how to put it into words? Well, that's what happened to me. I couldn't for the life of me figure out a word to use to explain gibberish.

Guess what word I could have used (that they supplied me with)?

NONSENSE. NONSENSE!

Suffice it to say that I felt a bit silly.

Sooo, I have an assignment to watch a Wole Soyinka video/interview. I was informed that though he may use "big words" in written word. But in spoken word (lol, I hope that's a thing) he uses simple words.

*cues video and pauses for it to buffer..... Nigeria, after all*


Anyway, what are your thoughts?

Do you like using big words or do you hate people using it?

How does it make you feel when you see or learn new 'big words'?

Also, how many big words did you note that I used here? (I don't think I used that many, if any at all, but hey, I could be wrong.  Lol.


PS: This could actually be part of the reason I haven't put up a post in a while. I'll most probably write about the other reasons in the course of time.

* The word is Logophile. :-)

What do you do with distance?

Based on current happenings….

I have this…friend.

(To save me the stress of beating around the bush, this friend is a male. To save you the stress of looking for hints, there is no sexual drama involved here.)

Now that that’s established, let us move on.

I have known this person for about 7 going on 8 months. We worked together for that duration and we got close... We would talk (read chat) and joke well into the night, see the next day and joke and play till we closed.

Imagine how I felt when I started sensing attitudinal shifts and changes. There were some work issues that probably caused this but I was of the opinion that my not wanting to discuss SOME work things should really not affect our relationship.
(It’s the general school of thought that that’s wrong but put a let's bookmark in that)

The little shifts gradually grew to become a dark spot we both didn’t address. He attempted to discuss it (I just realized that in retrospect) but he said some things that were, in my opinion constructed to scare me and so I kept a resting bitch face during the entire discussion. I kept mute. At the point where I decided to talk, he closed up.

I was frustrated and frankly, uber pissed.

We spoke (read chatted) again briefly and I thought all was well. But it wasn’t.

Now we have a big chasm (and I’m in a don’t know-slash-not-sure-how-slash-don’t-know-if-I-want-to-be-the-one-to-fix-it kinda state.)

But back to the point, what do I do with this distance? I hate it. 

UPDATE:  A week later. I'm over it. He's trying to be friends again. -_-

UPDATE of UPDATE: I needed his help. -_-

The End.

P.S: This post went a different way than the actual plan.

The question: What do you do when distance develops with someone you were once close to?